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Fall in love with anyone!

QUESTION PAPER: The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness: A procedure and some preliminary findings.

These 36 questions that "can make you fall in love with anyone" were originally published in 1997 by psychologist Arthur Aron and co-authors in an academic article titled: "The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings." " This questionnaire is by the Wie is ek?team translate.


The questions were originally contained in an addendum, along with instructions given to each pair. The instructions began with: "This is a study of interpersonal closeness, and your task - which we think you will enjoy - is simply to get close to your partner."

Participants were told to work through the 36 questions and answer all within one hour. Two of the participants were married six months later. Your period may differ!

You can also use these questions in your relationships with people you know well, such as friends, family and family members.


  1. If you could choose any person in the world, who would you invite to dinner?
  2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  3. Do you ever practice what you want to say before making a phone call? Why?
  4. What will your "perfect" day look like?
  5. When was the last time you sang for yourself? Or for someone else?
  6. If you could live until you were 90 years old and either keep the body or mind of a 30 year old for the last 60 years of your life, which one would you choose?
  7. Do you have a secret premonition about how you are going to die?
  8. Name three things you and your partner seem to have in common?
  9. What do you feel most grateful for in your life?
  10. If you could change anything in the way you were raised, what would it be?
  11. Tell your partner in as much detail as possible within four minutes.
  12. If you could wake up tomorrow with any trait you didn't have before, what would it be?


  1. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, your future or anything else, what would you like to know?
  2. Is there something you've been dreaming about for a long time but haven't done yet? Why haven't you done it yet?
  3. What do you consider to be the greatest achievement in your life?
  4. What do you value most in a friendship?
  5. What is your most precious memory?
  6. What is your worst memory?
  7. If you knew that you would suddenly die in a year, would you change anything about your current way of life? Why?
  8. What does friendship mean to you?
  9. What role does love and affection play in your life?
  10. Take turns sharing positive attributes of your partner until each one has shared five items.
  11. How adorable and close is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than other people's?
  12. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?


  1. Make each three “us” statements true. For example: “We are both in this room and we feel…”
  2. Complete the following sentence: "I wish I had someone I could ... share."
  3. If you could have a close friendship with your partner, share what you think would be important to him / her to know.
  4. Tell your friend what you like about him / her. Be very honest by saying things that you would not normally share with someone you have just met.
  5. Share a situation in which you are embarrassed with your partner.
  6. When was the last time you cried in front of another person? Or when you were alone?
  7. Tell your friend something about him / her that you already love.
  8. What, if anything, is too serious to make a joke about?
  9. If you were to die tonight, without an opportunity to interact with anyone, what would you most regret not telling someone? Why didn't you tell the person yet?
  10. Your home, with all your belongings in, is on fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely and quickly save one item.
  11. Who in your family's death will upset you the most? Why?
  12. Share a personal issue and ask your partner's advice on how to handle the situation. Also ask your partner to describe to you how you seem to feel about the problem you have chosen.